Recently I’ve been struggling with my identity. Who am I? Who am I outside of a wife, mom, Pastor’s wife, sister, friend, daughter. I struggle with knowing who I am, and what I am meant to do. I sometimes feel like I’m useless and I’m not contributing to our family, or really anything. I’m a stay-at-home mom. That’s it. Every day I wake up, get the kids ready for school, do work around the house, go grocery shopping, make lunch for the kid that’s home, be home with the other two get home from school, make dinner, clean the kitchen, put the kids to bed, and get ready for bed myself so I can do it all again the next day. It’s the same thing every day, and sometimes I struggle with the feeling that I don’t have a purpose, or that I’m not doing anything of importance.

Don’t get me wrong, I know that being a wife and mom is my purpose, and it’s important! But there are times when I struggle with the thought that it’s not good enough, or is it really that big of a deal? Besides, a lot of women do this wife/mom thing, and a lot of them have an identity outside of their homes. That’s something that I feel like I’ve lost, my identity.

What is my Identity?

I’m a mom, wife, Pastor’s wife, all those all part of my identity. But the most important identity that I have is that I’m a child of the Lord!

See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are! The reason the world does not know us is that it did not know Him. Dear friends, now we are children of God, and what we will be has not yet been made known. But we know that when Christ appears, we shall be like Him, for we shall see Him as He is.

1 John 3:1-2 NIV

Understanding that I have an identity in the Lord means more to me than any identity that I could have inside or outside my home! Who cares if I ever make it big as a blogger? Who cares if people end up knowing my name? I’d rather have the identity as a child of God then an identity as a child of the world. Being a child of God means that I have a purpose, the Lord has a plan for me that I may not even realize!

But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of Him who called you out of darkness into His wonderful light.

1 Peter 2:9

As it is written:

“For your sake we face death all day long;
    we are considered as sheep to be slaughtered.”^[a]

No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us.

Romans 8:36-37

We’re more than just sheep that are being taken to be slaughtered. I love this verse because it tells us that because we are children of God, we’re conquerors!

Loving my Identity

Knowing now the identity that I have in Christ, means letting go of the desire for the earthly identity. I know what my identity is, and I know who my identity is in! Does it mean that things will suddenly get easier, or that I won’t ever struggle with my identity? No, of course not! I know I’m a sinful human who fails in many ways, and forgetting my true identity is one way that I fail. However, I’m a child of the Lord who I know will forgive me even though I may continue to forget!

My friends, if you struggle with your identity, and feel that your identity is being taken over by all the roles that you are, then I encourage you to go to the Word of God, and remember who you are in Him! Remember that He put us in the positions we’re in for a reason, and a purpose! We shouldn’t feel as though we’re losing sight of who we are, but instead we should be looking at our identity through the Lord’s eyes! His plans are so much bigger than ours! I’m so thankful to be identified as a child of the King!

Until next time!